Suzanne's Mom (
Shirley Bernier)
spoke at Suzanne's funeral:
About 20 years ago Suzanne left our
family home in Lachine, Quebec, to pursue her studies, then research at
the NIH in Washington, DC, and then back to Canada at the University of
Western Ontario. Through daily e-mails, her weekly phone call,
her trips home for Christmas and our trips to where she was, she
managed to share her life with Phil and me and make us feel a part of
it. Suzanne and her brother Rob remained close although living in
different cities because of work. She was happy to take part in
Rob & Tinas wedding and then delighted to be godmother to their
girls Genevieve and Sophie. She had a special place in her heart
for them. One important phone call we received was when Suzanne
and Jeff called us to say they were to get married. All very
exciting! She had found her soul mate. I must say they have
always made us feel most welcome in their home
Four years ago when we came to London for one of our visits I brought a
poem to her that I had been given as I wanted her expertise as to how
to frame it she had become very good at framing pictures.
We were down in her home office and I showed her the poem A
strong woman vs a woman of strength. Some of you may know of
it. At this point she said: Mom, we are going to have to be
strong and have strength as I have been diagnosed with Breast
Cancer. She recently told me that she had kept a copy of
this with her during the first part of her treatment.
I share it with you today:
Suzanne has been a woman of strength
throughout her difficult journey and a sour ce of encouragement to
those who accompanied her. She unselfishly thought of others
before herself. From peoples verbal comments, e-mails and notes
we have come to realize that during the short time she has been with us
Suzanne has inspired people of all ages and has made a difference in
their lives. We thank her husband Jeff for his steadfast support
and understanding, Ken Regan and her extended family, her students,
colleagues, and friends for their compassion and generosity of
spirit. A special thanks to all of you here today who have come
to celebrate Suzannes life.
Suzannes quotation in the McGill University yearbook the year she
graduated says it all:
"One life to live, plan cautiously, take chances, fight the odds and
enjoy it all."
So, with this thought and until we meet again, we say Au revoir Suzanne.
"On behalf of the entire department, I
wish to express the sorrow and grief that we all feel with the passing
of Suzanne. She was more than a colleague and fellow faculty
member she was our friend and our inspiration. When I first
met Suzanne during my interview for the position of Chair, I asked her
what she wanted to see me accomplish as chair. She replied simply
that I should lead by example, as a researcher and as a teacher.
I have tried my best to follow this advice, but Suzanne truly embodied
it, not only as a researcher and teacher, but more importantly, as a
human being. Her courage and determination in the face of her
illness has been an example to us all. There are many definitions
of the word, hero we often reserve it for those who perform
extraordinary feats in the face of unusual perils but to me a hero is
one who perseveres in the trials and tribulations of everyday
life. Suzanne is one of my heroes, and she will continue to be an
inspiration to me to as I try to do my best and have courage in all
that I encounter in life."
Cheryle Seguin spoke at the
funeral, and here is her tribute to Suzanne:
"Close to 10 years
ago, I walked into Suzanne’s lab as a third year student with no real
experience to speak of, but looking for someone to give me a chance
because I was captivated with the promise of what research could
accomplish. As it turned out, Suzanne had just arrived at Western, and
at our first meeting she was running an experiment on the only part of
the bench not covered with boxes. Just an example of what I would
later learn to be true about Suzanne: that science came first.
The professor who sent me down the hall to meet her nudged me along
with the promise that this would be the perfect place for me. How right
he turned out to be.
Suzanne’s many accomplishments speak for themselves. She was an
Associate Professor in the Department of Anatomy and Cell Biology and
cross-appointed in Dentistry; a Member of the CIHR Group in Skeletal
Development and Remodeling and the New Emerging Team in Osteoarthritis
and Pain; a lecturer in her own department as well as the schools of
Medicine and Dentistry, and received her tenure from the University of
Western Ontario in the summer of 2006. On the national level, Suzanne
was the recipient of numerous research grants and was a founding member
of the Canadian Arthritis Network. Suzanne’s dedication to the
advancement of arthritis research was evident both in through her
research as well as her involvement at the community level with the
Arthritis Society.
Since taking up her position at Western in 1997, Suzanne’s lab became a
second home to 10 graduate students, 10 undergraduate students, and
numerous summer students, of which I had the distinct honor of being
one of the first.
Suzanne’s commitment to her students will undoubtedly be one of her
greatest legacies.
Although when I started graduate school I was Suzanne’s only student,
our lab was rarely empty because Suzanne was one of THOSE professors.
The one the students would come see for help if their experiments
didn’t work; for explanations on details they had not understood in
class; for advice if they were at a crossroads; or just for one of
those famous pep talks that kept us all going. Suzanne’s generosity,
steadfastness and dedication to her students explains why many of us,
years after leaving the department, still turned to her for first when
we were faced with important decisions. Suzanne enabled her students to
be successful by teaching them to do science the right way. She had
high standards and pushed her students hard, and as a result, always
found a way to get the best out of each and every one of us.
In the summers with the onslaught of students, the dept. lunch room
became a place known not for peace and quiet, but for the raucous of
laughter that accompanied the daily tomfoolery. Instead of being
deterred by this, Suzanne along with a few other brave members of the
faculty, turned up daily to have lunch with the students. Suzanne
seemed to enjoy the entertainment these afternoons provided, and even
went out of her way to be involved with the students outside the lab
playing on the departmental softball team, and hosting numerous BBQs
and her and Jeff’s house. She took a great deal of pride in her
students and would go above and beyond to show her support. When I
received my BSc from Western, it was not enough for Suzanne to extend
her congratulations or even attend the ceremony. Instead she dawned her
McGill robes and sat through the long and overheated convocation
ceremony as a faculty member so that she could be the one to put the
hood over my head and be the first to shake my hand.
True to her giving nature, that last time I saw Suzanne she was
concerned that she would not be here to provide me with support and the
inevitable next round of reference letters. I am thankful that I had
the opportunity to tell her that her guidance and friendship had
already provided me with more than I could ever have expected. I told
her what I believe: that I was indebted to her.
Her response I want to share with all of you who were taught by her, or
who worked along side of her. She asked us all to go on and do the
research that she would not be able to do. To train good scientists. To
carry on in our lives applying the high standards and dedication we
learnt from her in whatever we are doing, and that way she would live
on through us.
Suzanne truly touched the lives of those of us who were lucky enough to
have the chance to know her. She would want us to celebrate her life
and acknowledge that she is now in a better place, but we cannot do so
without acknowledging all that she was. With Suzanne’s passing we have
lost a teacher, a mentor, a collegue, a friend, a source of support and
encouragement, and an inspiration on how to live life in the face of
the greatest adversity with grace, dignity, and selflessness."